Lavalife is Weird

I've been feeling down about things (of the dating variety) recently so I decided to put my profile back up on Lavalife just to see what came up. I have no intention of contacting any of the guys who send me smiles, it's just interesting to see who (if anybody) is interested. Interesting in both a fun and disturbing way. I mean honestly, do I look like someone who dates men in their late 50s? Because apparently one guy thought so. But it's weird. I'm really not in the right frame of mind for dating at the moment so I probably shouldn't have put up my profile at all (seems kind of like false advertising or something -I'm a virtual tease!) but even if I were in the perfect frame of mind I don't know if I would be all that interested. Meeting people online freaks me out. I mean who throws a shoe (hi Shae! that had nothing to do with anything, we just used to say it alot for no reason and I like it)? I did go on one date with a guy I met on Lavalife but it doesn't really count because we ended up having mutual friends and I kind of knew who he was already (once I placed him that is) so it's not like meeting up with some total stranger. And even that didn't work out. Of course that would be where the SO not ready for dating thing comes into play. I guess I'm just so used to having relationships with people that I've connected with immediately. If you look at the guys I've dated seriously over the past few years the one thing they have in common (beyond exceedingly good taste in women - at least the one time anyway :-)) is that they had a certain attraction that came primarily from their minds (humour, intelligence, craziness) rather than the physical. We connected on a spiritual level. Bahhahahahaha-ha! I had to say it. Sorry. But it's kind of true in a less freaky fluffy wanna come over and look at my crystals kind of way. That's something that just doesn't translate into a photograph or an email. I don't know. It's just seems too artificial. And on the other hand, I've met a lot of people who were hilarious and I enjoyed spending time with a whole lot but just wasn't at all attracted too. It's just something you can't know without having seen the person face to face. And I just don't want to waste my time with people I may have no desire to ever see a second time. What if they smell funny? Don't laugh! Smell is one of the key components to attraction. Some people just smell weird. Or they remind me of someone else (in a bad way) and that's that. Or what if they make weird noises? Or have a tic of some sort? These are things that you should know before you agree to go out with someone! Because then if you do go out with them and you have a good time but they have a strange odour so you can't possibly get romantic with them what are you going to say? You can't tell them they smell funny! Maybe they already know and then no matter what excuse you make up to cushion their feelings they'll always be thinking that's what the problem was. Or what if they have a weird mole or a wooden leg or something and you don't actually care about that but they won't believe you? You can't very well say "no, seriously dude, it's not the leg. You just smell weird." See, this is a situation that's just fraught with danger. Fraught I say. It's like the time I went out with this guy when I worked at the bookstore in Woodgrove Mall. He seemed pretty nice, kind of cute, bought some really good books so obviously had a reasonable intellect and then we went out and he talked non-stop about how he lived with his parents because his roommate was an ass and his parent's were driving him crazy because they always wanted him to do stuff and blah, blah, blah. He was in his 30s for chrissakes! This is a problem. And then he kept calling me and I just didn't know what to say. Because I didn't want to tell him that I wasn't attracted to him because he was a loser. Because that would've been mean. I mean, he obviously had issues to begin with. I didn't want to add to that. Luckily enough I moved to Halifax shortly thereafter. It was good timing all round. But I have no immediate plans to move across the country at the moment so I'm kind of screwed. I may never date again. It's just too complicated.